Tell Me About it Thursday

For today's post, I am going to cheat a little and just point you in the direction of a great new blog.
Most of my long-term readers will know I work for a disability agency called Pinarc.
We are moving with the times and now have a great new blog up and running.
You can find it here:

PINARC SUPPORT SERVICES BLOG

The post over there today has been written by some adults living in a CRU. Pretty sobering reading really. They raise some great points.

I personally have a lot of trouble thinking too much about the future. I mean, Ryley isn't even 9 yet. But the reality is that someday soon, I am going to have to think about it all. And that scares me. When he turns 18, I am not longer his parent, I have to become his legal guardian or something just so I can continue to make his decisions for him and have a say in what happens.
I can't even imagine at this point of my life NOT having full control over his wellbeing. He can indicate to me and David what his needs are, but we are the ones giving him the opportunities and, at the end of the day, controlling nearly every aspect of his life.
What happens when that is taken out of our hands? What if it is put into someone else's hands? Someone who doesn't know Ryley that well.
I know it sounds like I am a crazy control freak of a mother, but when you have a non-verbal child, holy shit, how else am I meant to be???

I know I am not the only one who worries about my kids future. That comes with this whole parenting gig. But for a child a with a disability, it is so much more complex.
I often say that Ryley can always live with us. We will make whatever adaptations in our lives that we need to make to ensure he stays with us. But the other side of that is, what if Ryley would prefer to live in a CRU? What if he doesn't want to live at home? He is a switched on kid. Just because he can't talk, doesn't mean he has no idea what is going on around him. What happens if he ends up getting really angry with us for not letting him grow up and move out?

ARGH.
It will do your head in.
Seriously.
Sometimes I think too much.

Anyway. Go and have a read of the Pinarc blog.

Comments

  1. HilaryNovember 26, 2010 at 2:04 AM

    It doesn't sound like you are a control freak mother. It sounds like you are writing what all of us are thinking. Magnolia is just 7 weeks old and I already have thoughts like that. Thanks for sharing!

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  2. AlisonNovember 26, 2010 at 9:28 AM

    Are you serious that I will have to apply to be Ashlea's legal guardian when she is 18???

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  3. UnknownNovember 26, 2010 at 10:47 AM

    I have big fears about Ellies future...how will it be when she is 18? I wonder what she will be like? How independant will she be? How much will I have to do for her???

    But you have confused me about the whole applying to be Ellies guardian at 18....What the??? You will need to fill me in when we catch up saturday about this one

    Looking forward to seeing you guys xxx

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  4. AnnaNovember 26, 2010 at 11:50 AM

    Alison & Mel-I will clarify it in the next post. Sorry, I just automatically assume everyone knows things sometimes.

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